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Jeremy W and Xander S, ages 15 and 4

Photograph by Nina Spinelli (2025)

Every family’s story is unique, but some journeys are woven so tightly together, they become inseparable. Such is the case with Jeremy Willis and Xander Spires—brothers by blood, best friends by bond, and each on their own incredible path filled with both challenges and triumphs.

Jeremy, the oldest, faced obstacles from a young age. He received a diagnosis of ADHD at age five. He faced developmental delays and required speech therapy, but it was not until he was thirteen that he was diagnosed as being on the autism spectrum. Through it all, Jeremy’s determination has not wavered. While academics remain a challenge, he thrives in life skills, carving a space for himself with confidence and heart.

Younger brother Xander began his journey differently but no less bravely. Born with a hole in his heart, he had to be resuscitated at birth and spent the first few days of his life in the NICU due to low blood sugar. He missed milestones early on, and his developmental delays were evident. But his spark? Undeniable. Xander has a bright, curious nature and a gift for learning new things. He is joyful, unique, and unstoppable in his own right.

Together, Jeremy and Xander bring a dynamic balance to their family. Each with their own strengths, Jeremy with his remarkable life skills and empathy, Xander with his sharp mind and determination, they teach those around them what it means to persevere. Their personalities are as distinct as their paths, yet they share an unbreakable bond that uplifts everyone around them. What inspires their mom most about her sons is their capacity to love, to grow, and to rise again after every setback. She would not change a single part of their story because each step has shaped these boys into the incredible individuals they are today.

Her hopes are simple, yet powerful: that Jeremy and Xander continue to grow into the best versions of themselves. That they find happiness, acceptance, and purpose in a world that sees their worth.

Family Connection of South Carolina provides services and resources to families who have a child with a disability or specialized healthcare need. Since 1990 we have served more than 100,000 families and today our services are needed more than ever. We focus on parent-to-parent support, guidance with navigating the complex healthcare system, and assistance with school meetings and special education plans.